Here lately I have been wondering why they have made it seem like being a teen parent is a good thing.
We as you all know were teen parents. We didn't get a tv show and we didn't get our pictures in magazines.
I'm glad we didn't. Being a mom at such a young age was hard. We had our first one at 16, I was 3 weeks away from my 17th birthday. We had our second one 8 days from my 18th birthday.
I don't regret my kids (never have and never will), We were inexperienced, our parents were old fashioned, they didn't have the TALK with us, which back then I think no parent did.
Anyhow we were lucky my mom was always there to help us without her support who's knows what we would of done.
My dad was always there as well.
My hubby's mom worked a lot and she contributed with what she could but we were always ok.
What I'm trying to say being a teen parent isn't easy, yes we had support but my hubby and I worked to provide for our kids.
We stayed in school but later it got more complicated so I decided to get home schooled and my hubby went to school 1 hour a week and got work for the whole week.
I had a teacher come to my house and teach me once a week. She enrolled me in a program they had for teen mothers back then.
Every A I got a would get 100 dollars. Every report card I got was straight As. which was awesome.
By this time I was not working my hubby wanted me to stay in school. Till this day I thank him for that.
Along the way we lost friends but gained true friends. Some that I still have contact with through fb since we moved here to Arkansas a few years later. A few were teen moms as well so they knew what we were dealing with. :)
While other teens were out shopping, going to prom, party's and all the cool stuff teens got to do. We stayed home and took care of our little ones. We did do fun stuff but kid friendly fun stuff. It was hard, sometimes it was more then hard. We stuck together and have overcome so much.
Gangs, drive-bys, drugs and fights. NONE which we were involved in but someone close to my husband always put us in that kind of danger. Till one day I got up and left back to my moms house and my hubby came with us. Shortly after that we moved here with my parents.
And this is why...
We are doing the best we can to prevent our kids from being teen parents and keep them out of trouble.
We talk to them and we are involved in everything they do.
While some have hit the mom you are over protective age and ask for me to take it easy. I let them know its for their own good.
Its hard especially after I was a teen myself.
I want my kids to know to be aware what the consequences will be if you don't do things right.
Sometimes something as simple as grades can be a huge discussion in our family.
We tell them the grades make you not the talent.
What good can it be if your really talented but don't make good grades.
My girls have big plans of what they want to be. They have careers chosen and I'm glad they see themselves getting far. It makes me proud the have ambitions and dreams. My 3 girls love school. They are high mantience and spoiled rotten by their daddy. They however do deserve it. They work hard and make it so easy to raise them school wise that is. They can also be huge drama queens. :)
My boys on the other hand have one dream or more like two.
Play college football and play in the NFL. Its a huge dream the 3 Gonzalez boys have and only god and time will tell if that's what they are suppose to do We tell them the same thing all the time.
You have to have something to fall back on, football isn't forever. You cant go to college and study football you need a career to major in.
We get called dream poppers but hey its reality. RIGHT?
While my younger 2 have a ways to go my oldest will be going to High school this fall. He has dreamed about playing high school football since he was younger.
We tell him he can play as long as he keep good grades. Bad grades-no football, I guess I also have to thank the law academy, which he is excited to be part of it and to stay in the law academy good grades is a must.
You see what I'm saying having kids is not easy. Its not easy at any age. Imagine being a kid raising a kid. ITS HARD no matter how much support you have its hard. In the end its your child and YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. We learned that the hard way.
I'm 32 years old and never did I picture myself raising teens at this age to be exact 3 teens and 2 almost pre-teens, one honory (sp) little 7 year old and a 1 year old which I have no energy to keep up with. BOY-O-BOY
I wouldn't change any of it, I love my kids but if I can prevent my own children from being teen parents you bet yourself I will do whatever it takes to prevent it.
and this is a little of my private life I just had to share.
PLEASE no pictures LOL
Chely
